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My Health and Finances Suffered Until I Realized This One Thing

I realized that what really strengthens me, what I’m most passionate about are the things I love, not just like.
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What Do You Stand For? What Do You Really Love, Not Just Like?

You might think because this blog is named #couchkills, it’s a site only about exercise, eating better and wellness.

And if you’ve read many of the articles, we do talk about getting off the couch, moving, and eating better, but #couchkills and the people who contribute to it are charged with sharing ideas and stories that inspire people to “create a life they love and to live it well!”

Our mission, our purpose is to inspire and support people to “create a life they love and to live it well” in all of the areas of their life that are important to them.

I believe that’s a worthy mission, and for me personally it’s a mission I’m committed to being a part of for the rest of my life.

I also believe you need both parts of the puzzle to have an amazing life.

“a life you love” + “a life lived well”

Even in today’s age when we all have so much more freedom to “create and live a life we love”, and not just a job, people are still resigned that they can’t have that. Others can, but they can’t. And in a time where we have every conceivable, quantifiable tool and support community we could ever imagine to “to live life well”, the trend still continues for people to not live life well.

On October 17, 2017 I put a stake in the ground with my first article for #couchkills and to be honest, I wasn’t that clear in my mind with what I really wanted to share with people in #couchkills, other than the North Star I took away from the amazing gift of being a contestant for 8 months on NBC’s Biggest Loser Season 11.

I had that takeaway, my North Star, tattooed on my arm during the 6 weeks we were home before we came back for the LIVE finale almost 5 years ago:

Jay's tattoo

Before Biggest Loser, I had little by little let my world get smaller and smaller while I got larger and larger, eventually topping the scale at 435 lbs. My health was suffering, my finances were suffering, I was suffering. Yes, I stayed busy, but I wasn’t thriving, in fact, I was barely surviving.

So when my daughter Jennifer and I made it onto Biggest Loser I first saw it as a “weigh” to lose weight, and maybe even get healthy, but what I didn’t even remotely have a clue about was how life-changing the experience would be as it set off a cascade of new ways of seeing what could be possible for the rest of my life.

If you want to know about the backstory of how Jennifer and I got on Biggest Loser you can learn that in my article “Chosen Out Of 250,000+ People,” but I’d rather share some thoughts about what I’m doing in the present that may interest you to consider exploring for your life, including the question “What do you stand for?”

Ok, remember The Secret? Well if you do, do you remember John Assaraf? He was the person who shared the story about his son finding a board with pictures on it, a vision board. This turned out to have a picture of the house of his dreams on it, the very house that he was now living in, but he had forgotten that he put that picture on that board 5 years earlier.

By now, most of us have heard of vision boards, but when John shared that story 10 years ago, it set off a wave of people creating vision boards.

So when a good friend of mine, Heidi Hanna, told me that John and I needed to meet because he had created a brain research and product development company called Neurogym. They were going to help people free themselves from the bondage of their past, bad habits and limited thinking so they could acquire the confidence, certainty and personal power to achieve their lives goals and purpose. So of course…
I was a great big YES!

John and I first got to meet on a Zoom video chat where in 90 minutes, a whole new world of possibilities opened up for me as he not only shared what his Neurogym “Winning The Game of Weight Loss” could do for people [me too!] he also shared what his “Having It All Program” could do for people [me too again!].

So I’ve started test driving both programs and you can be sure I’ll share what I’m learning as I go through each course, But until that point, I wanted to share with you the beginning stages of an exploration John asked me to do that would really open me up to what I shared with him that I wanted to create for myself and others thru #couchkills, and that was to “create a life we love and to live it well!

Even before I started the “Having It All” program, John asked me to “create a vision, the story of what I wanted a day, a week, a month, a year of my life to look like when it’s really a life that I love, not just a life I like, but an off the chart, pinch yourself life!

He wasn’t interested in a list of goals, or things to achieve and acquire, but a real heartfelt, passionate, vision. Something really worth creating, something really worth living for.

No maybe’s, no hope too’s, just a full blown, lids off vision to the Universe!

Now that sounded like fun!

Tattoo on Biggest Loser Jay Jacobs armI don’t usually get stuck once I get started writing, but I did, and I stayed stuck for a couple of weeks until one day on the treadmill, when I was in an intense state of full blown sweaty exercise, I glanced down to see my tattoo on my forearm and it hit me!

WHAT YOU’RE FOR STRENGTHENS YOU

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Before I attempted to “create a vision, the story of what I want a day, a week, a month a year of your life to look like when it’s really a life that I love, not just a life I like, but an off the chart, pinch yourself life!” I realized that what really strengthens me, what I’m most passionate about are the things I love, not just like.

That’s where I started.

Once I started a list of things that I loved, it all just flowed from in me. And the exciting thing is that this list isn’t a “one and done” as I’m sure I missed some things, and if you’re “creating” a life you love, its an ongoing process.

So you can read what I’ve listed, but that’s my list.

Why not take the time to write a list of things that you love, things that answer the question “what do you stand for,” the things that strengthen you, and see what opens up for you.

And most likely I’ll write the first draft of what John asked me to do in a few days, and when I do, you can be sure I’ll share it with you as I am committed to be the guinea pig to hopefully inspire you to give yourself the gift of creating a vision, the story of what “creating a life you love, and live it well looks like for you in your life!”

My list…

I love my family.
I love spending time with my family.
I love my morning creative time.
I love creating from a blank slate.
I love being a life long learner.
I love Starbucks and it’s my favorite creative 3rd place.
I love my iPhone, iPad and iMac.
I love learning and using social media.
I love reading the NY Times and the WSJ.
I love curating and sharing personal development, quality of life, and entrepreneurial articles.
I love writing about personal development, quality of life, and entrepreneurial topics.
I love listening to personal development, quality of life, and entrepreneurial podcasts.
I love listening to personal development, quality of life, and entrepreneurial audio books.
I love consulting, supporting and inspiring people and companies who are up to big things.
I love collaborating with people and companies who are up to big things
I love coaching, supporting and inspiring people who are up to big things.
I love being a speaker.
I love walking in beautiful and adventurous places.
I love hiking in beautiful and adventurous places.
I love biking in beautiful and adventurous places.
I love Spinning at Flywheel and Soulcycle.
I love listening to music.
I love interviewing people.
I love being interviewed.
I love being on the radio.
I love being on TV.
I love being a source file to the media.
I love traveling to new places.
I love traveling to places I’ve visited before.
I love exploring cities.
I love exploring Manhattan.
I love grocery shopping.
I love shopping for interesting cooking ingredients.
I love cooking.
I love entertaining.
I love trying new restaurants and bars.
I love going to our favorite restaurants and bars.
I love the smell of new possibilities every morning 🙂

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What’s your “love” list? What do you stand for? What strengthens you?

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